Masturbation techniques: An orgams a day keeps the doctor away
The title might sound a bit too promising. Impossible even. And no, an orgasm a day is most definitely not a guarantee for a doctor-free life, but in its essence the title is true. Did you know that an orgasm has many health benefits?
The health benefits
For those who don’t know yet, here are the benefits in a list.
An orgasm causes your body to produce more oxytocin (the cuddle hormone). This is great, because it lowers the blood pressure for women, which in turn is good for our (women’s) hearts.
It’s not just your heart that benefits from an orgasm. The vagina also thrives. Quite literally we might say. Because an orgasm stimulates the blood supply to the vagina, it remains nice and smooth underneath.
It lowers stress.
It relieves pain.
It’s not just the cuddle hormone oxytocin that is released, but also the happiness hormones endorphins, which stimulate a good night’s rest.
And, another nice benefit: multiple orgasms in a row (especially if combined with good sex with a partner) results in such a high calorie usage that it helps you maintain weight as well.
Nothing but good things then!
Unless…
Unless - and it’s more common than you think - you aren’t able to reach an orgasm. For example, because you don’t have a partner, or you do have a partner, but they don’t quite know the tricks of the trade yet. Or it's possible you don’t know all the tricks and techniques for masturbation yet. Unfortunately, we can’t give you a partner, but those amazing masturbation techniques? We can most definitely give you those!
Foreplay!
Let’s start at the foundation of an orgasm: foreplay. Yes, even if you are masturbating. Do you want some quality time for yourself, make sure you’re relaxed and you have privacy. Take your time and warm yourself up a little. You can take the latter literally (a colder environment, usually doesn’t help), but figuratively as well! Because it’s not just the clitoris that plays a role, the other erogenous zones deserve some attention as well! Think of your neckline, breast, underbelly, the inside of your thighs, your vulva in all its glory (the inner lips, the outer lips, the entrance to the vagina, the U-spot). And don’t forget about your fantasies! All warm-ups that can help you reach a climax.
The clitoris
The U-spot
The entrance to the vagina
Are the foundations set? Then you can proceed onto the various techniques of sex.
Your head!
You can master all the techniques you want, but if your head’s not in the game an orgasm will be harder to reach as well. Your mind might wander to that grocery list for tomorrow or that email that you still need to send out, but it may also be the case that you’re still a little reluctant to fully let go of control. This makes reaching an orgasm more difficult as well. Try to lock out the day, fully take in the moment, and try to build up the excitement with a pleasant fantasy.
A brief introduction to the anatomy of a vagina
It is important to mention that there are two ways to reach an orgasm. By stimulating the clitoris or by stimulating the G-spot in the vagina. But what’s the difference? Perhaps a short lesson in anatomy isn’t an unnecessary luxury… The clitoris is one of the most sensitive spots in the female body. You can find it right above the point where the inner lips come together: a rather sensitive little knob. And that is just the part of the clitoris that we can see with the naked eye. The clitoris in its entirety is more than that small pink nub. It’s also inside, along the shaft of your vagina, the hard and soft cavernosa and the G-spot hidden all the way inside… Your vagina in a nutshell. Now onto the ‘real job’.
Do you want to know if your vulva looks normal? You can read more about it in this article.
Clitoral orgasm
Let’s start with clitoral stimulation. With that we mean: stimulating the part that’s visible outside the vagina, that little nub. You can do this in many ways depending on what you like the most. But remember to always start slow, and build up gradually, don’t immediately rush to ‘the spot’. That little spot is so sensitive, rushing towards it immediately can have the opposite effect. So first explore the surrounding area and give it some love, this’ll help you get in the mood. Then, you’ll slowly work towards the sensitive area (but don’t ignore the surrounding areas). You can stroke up and down with your finger (or fingers). Long strokes, big strokes. From left to right, right to left. Up and down. Plucking. Teasing. In circles, clockwise or counterclockwise. Fast, slow. Be creative! Not just in speed, direction, and length, but also in the pressure you exert with your finger(s). And most importantly: Take your time. ‘Cutting corners’ (and skipping them!) won’t work in this scenario.
Vaginal orgasm, does it even exist?
That was clitoral orgasm, but there’s more. That is, vaginal orgasms: the orgasm that is reached through penetration, which hinges on the G-spot. The G-spot, the somewhat rough, ridged feeling piece of tissue that you can feel if you insert your fingers 3 to 4 cm into your vagina and make the “come here” sign. Again, foreplay makes the difference and increases the fun. Are you fully warmed up? Then stimulate your G-spot by moving your finger(s) by pressing on the G-spot, moving in circles around and on it, moving your fingers up and down. One plus one is two. This also applies to clitoral and G-spot stimulation at the same time.
Because you are still stimulating the non-visible parts of your clitoris using this technique it still technically counts as a clitoral orgasm rather than a vaginal orgasm. You reach your climax through your vagina, but the vagina itself has no pleasure stimuli.
Positions
If you thought that the missionary was the only position for a good orgasm, we got news for you. The possibilities are endless! Here are some positions to get started:
Do it yoga style: The lotus sex position: It’s very relaxing and because your legs are spread everything is easily accessible.
On your belly, cheeks up in the air. Not the most relaxing position, but the feeling is more intense because of it.
Out of the box(spring). Your bed is comfortable and privacy is guaranteed, but don’t underestimate the couch. Or a comfortable chair. And most definitely the more exciting surroundings.
On your knees, legs slightly spread, and use gravity to its fullest. The blood will flow right down where it needs to be.
A little aid
Orgasm using your handiwork is great, but do you want more than your fingers? You can also use the help from certain attributes, even common household items! Playing with the water pressure settings can give taking a shower a whole new dimension. So can bathing btw (long live the shower head). There are women who find that nothing is more stimulating than rubbing a soft piece of clothing over their clitoris. Another possibility: reaching an orgasm by “rubbing” against something. The bed, the mattress, a chair. Ice cubes (the contrast between warm and cold, along the clitoris or in the vagina), a (peeled) cucumber, or a candle could all substitute the dildo. This is just the tip of the iceberg of possibilities. We, in turn, say: be careful and keep thinking, even when you are reaching a high. You won't be the first innocent victim to end up in the emergency room with a tennis ball or a vacuum-sucked beer or shampoo bottle in their vagina, which cannot be removed on its own. Want to play it safe? Then of course there are always more than enough sex toys for sale. It’s safe, there’s something for everyone, and they almost always keep their promise.
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One final thing…
The key to success is: experimentation. Practice makes perfect. In theory it might sound a little static and superficial, but we promise you: reality is far from it.
Do you want to know more about female orgasm? We also have an online class on the female orgasm in our Academy that you can rewatch. Curious? Click here.
