The ultimate blowjob: Cycle gives you six tips that will blow your mind

Penises have the reputation of being simpler and less mysterious than vulvas. We have news for you: nothing could be less true. The nerves of our intimate zones are so incredibly complex, what works for one person might not work for another. That doesn’t mean that there aren’t a couple of basic guidelines you could follow.

So what is the secret to a good blowjob or fellatio? It’s actually the same as working in an office: be patient, communicate with each other, be enthusiastic and include active participation of the lucky recipient. Like we said, it’s a bit like a business relationship. Still, you should know a bit about the anatomy as well.

So, let’s start with the anatomical knowledge. You have the head, shaft, and a pair of testicles that all need some attention. For most, the tip of the head is the most sensitive. But beware, uncircumcised penises don’t love harsh touches there, so don’t use your teeth and don’t suck on it too hard. A soft and gentle touch works best. Slow strokes with your tongue or a damp thumb (a little spit does the trick) can feel great for some people.

If you do this well, there is a good chance that they will get a hard-on. Now it's time to keep your rhythm and variation in pressure. Stroke down and release: chances are they will go wild for the wonderful feeling you give them with this. Also try to pay some attention to the testicles. According to many, these are often neglected during oral sex. And that while some quite enjoy some stimulation and pressure there. Not everyone sings hallelujah at some testicular stimulation, for some it's just too sensitive, but trying can pay off. Start gently moving, stroking and tickling to see what they think of it. You can also include the perineum (the bit of skin between the end of the testicles and the anus), many find this a very pleasant spot to be stroked.

What does your partner like? Just ask! Big chance they think this question is super exciting in itself. Maybe you don’t immediately get a very detailed answer (or maybe you do) butyou get a complete manual the next day during dinner. Talk about preferences regarding speed, pressure, rhythm, and those secret special spots of stimulation. You might be amazed at what you learn about their body through a curious, playful examination, even if you have been together for a hundred years. Opening the door to sexual communication is not a skill we learn naturally in this society, and it may feel uncomfortable at first - but the key to being a good lover is listening to your partner's signals, and staying curious.

Clean up!

Now that we’ve spoken about all of that, it’s time to get to the good part: the tips and tricks! Make sure that both you and your partner are clean, so wash your genitals regularly (not with normal soap!) and wear a clean pair of underwear daily. It goes without saying, right? True, but it is something that can make the fun go from good to great. Don’t forget to also wash your hands, as they play an important part in oral sex.

Lube it up!

Most penises can feel a bit dry. That is something you do not want to happen during a good BJ. Each movement on or around the penis should feel wet, the slippery the better! Use spit, lube, whatever pleases you two most. It takes away some of the dryness and that’s pleasurable for both of you. 

Want to try some lube? Check out Jelly or Uberlube. 

Don’t use teeth!

There are few people who really enjoy feeling your teeth during oral sex. In fact, it is so rare that those who do enjoy it will most likely tell you that they do so. So it’s safest to assume that your teeth should not play any part in a standard blowjob. Especially if your partner is uncircumcised, because then the head is usually very sensitive. So it could help to fold your lips over your teeth when you are giving head.

Use your hands

Only using your mouth for a blowjob? That’s something that only happens in porn and it is not realistic at all. It’s actually really tiring and most people need more intense and varied stimulation in order to climax. Using your hands gives a nice touch to the blowjob as it adds variety to the pressure, warmth, and wetness of your mouth. Just think about that extra bit of lube. 

Try to experiment with different kinds of movements, upwards, downwards, round and slow strokes, and tightly hold on to the base of the shaft. Ask your partner what they like the most, what is stimulating for them. As inspiration: put your hand on the bottom of the penis and start your blowjob. Move your hand and mouth in synchrony, or keep your hand with a constant pressure at the base of the shaft. Another variation: try this with two hands - one can remain on the base of the shaft and the other hand moves up and down the shaft whilst your mouth is focused on the head. If your tongue and jaw need a break, try to switch to hands alone for a couple of minutes. This is a good time for some sexy communication or a good make-out session.

Ice ice baby

If you’ve seen Fifty Shades of Grey, I am sure you will remember that scene where Christian seduces Anastasia with an ice cube when she is blindfolded. It’s not just a great experiment for women, men also can go wild. Suck on an ice cube before going down to create more pleasure and stimulation for your partner. The coolness of the cold ice cube against their hot body… Oh lala…

Deepthroating

Honestly, this is another thing you mostly see in porn. Some people can do it, but many can’t. Your gag reflex is nothing to be ashamed of - it’s there to keep you alive! Many penis owners also say that the idea of deepthroating is often hotter than the actual thing, because you don’t have much variety with it and it’s difficult to avoid the teeth. 

If you still want to try it, and your partner’s penis is the right length, consider laying on your back, dropping your head off the edge of the bed or any surface that is as high as your waist (the coffee table maybe?). This way, your throat opens up a little and that makes it easier for your partner to thrust without your gag reflex coming up. Use your hand to put some pressure on the shaft to control the rhythm and to add some extra stimulation. Last tip? Think about what your orthodontist used to say to you: “Breath through your nose!”

Spit or swallow

Honestly? It is completely up to you! Some people love swallowing sperm, some absolutely hate it, and others simply do it because they think it’s part of the act. There is no “must” here. Swallowing is not a must, and if someone is forcing you to do so, they are absolutely in the wrong. Having said that, if you do decide that swallowing is not for you, try to spit it out discreetly instead of running to the trashcan full of disgust. If you want to avoid having to make this decision, switch to just your hands when the time is right.

Cycle Tip!

A vacuum seal double hand twist gock gock combo

If we are to believe the founders Alex and Sofia of the Call Her Daddy podcast (if you know, you know), the Gluck Gluck 9000 is a weak spot for most and so it is a technique that can’t miss in your blowjob dictionary to become the ultimate fellatio master. So what is it exactly? A “new level sloppy wet blowjob”. Better known as using a lot of spit and saliva, like we said before. The sound that the saliva makes is the highlight of this technique, and most find hearing this extremely sexy and exciting.

You use both hands for this popular technique. A bonus is that it makes the receiver feel as if they are well hung. It’s important to remember to twist both hands in different directions. Turn one hand to the right whilst twisting the other to the left (or the other way around) and use your mouth as well.

Neglected but not forgotten

Neglected, but not forgotten: the balls. Place one hand around the shaft of the penis and make sure you have a lot of saliva in your mouth (again). Take one ball in your mouth and gently move it around in your mouth. Vary from one ball to another in this way. Note that not every penis owner likes this. Do you sense that your partner is not getting any pleasure out of it or do they indicate this themselves? Then go back to one of the other tips!

One last thing: don’t do anything you do not want to do. Sex should be fun and exciting for both participants. Don’t put any pressure on it and only do it because you enjoy it and you like doing it. That’s it. Are you excited? We are. Your partner is too. We know that for sure.