Stuck in a sex rut? Spice up your sex life with these positions
And that’s such a shame because nothing is as good as some nice, creative sexy time.
Switching things up in your sex life can already bring back the spark you lost. We can think of a few things, for example: let your partner pleasure you on your in-law’s kitchen table, put a pillow underneath your hips during missionary for a deeper and more intense penetration, get some massage oil, try out a sex toy together or maybe being tied up can be your new thing.
But alright, let’s get back to business. These ‘spice it up’ tips are great, but it’s always nice to have some more practical advice to get that spark going again. That’s why we’re gonna discuss some wonderful positions you can add to your repertoire!
Do you like to be the one who’s in control? Then this position can be your new favorite! You start by sitting on top of your partner. When it’s inserted you can either move your hips in a circular motion or up and down. You can slightly bend forward while you’re doing this, but you can also try to sit up a bit more straight and pull your partner towards you. This way your partner not only has a great view of you - what makes them even more turned on -, this position also makes teasing kisses or dirty talk a whole lot easier.
So now that you know the regular cowgirl, you can take it to the next level and try the reverse cowgirl. Instead of facing your partner, you turn around so your partner is looking at your back. This is a great sex position for g-spot stimulation, because the angle of the penis changes, hitting your abdominal wall even harder than before.
Flat on your stomach
With your head face-first into a pillow? Yep, you heard that right! Surrender yourself to the pleasure and lie flat on your stomach or maybe pull up your knees a bit. Ask your partner if he wants to sit on you with his knees on both sides of your body. He then has the choice to lie flat on top of you (this is a bit easier) or to sit up straight. This may look like an awkward position at first, but you’ll be constantly stimulated in all the right spots!
Are you more the romantic type? Then there’s a big chance that spooning is definitely the right position for you. Let your partner take you from behind. They can make thrusting movements or stay deep inside of you and constantly touch your g-spot. But a combination of the two never goes wrong either. What’s also great about this position is that your partner has both hands free to stimulate your clitoris and nipples. And if they won’t do that, you can always do it yourself, of course ;).
You might be thinking ‘why missionary, isn’t that for boring, old couples?’. But trust us, this good old-fashioned position isn’t so bad and boring as everyone says it is. After all, your partner is doing most of the work and, let’s be honest, that can be pretty nice from time to time. And if you put a pillow underneath your hips and back, you can intensify the pleasure because the penis or vibrator can get much deeper this way. Another thing you can do to spice up this position is to put your legs on his shoulder. And no worries, you don’t have to be a yogi to do this.
Never underestimate the power of some good cunnilingus. Ask your partner to make soft sucking motions while they keep teasing your clitoris. You’ll be turned on in no time, trust us.
Do you want to know what other things you can do to spice up your sex life? Watch this video from Cycle expert and sexoligist Astrid Kremers or order the online class: Sex Education: better sex with your partner (dutch).